Andreea Cristina (23) escort Switzerland

Popeye

Dear HiFi Guy, I know all too well how difficult it is to walk away from someone who admits that they have feelings for you but just can't allow themselves to act on those feelings. It's a tough thing to hear. But, strange as it might seem at first, the fact of the matter is that it's not your problem. How can that be, you might ask, when because of this woman's decision you are denied the joy of having her in your life as your girlfriend? It's affecting you, yes. But it's not your problem to solve. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about -- you can check out my "soap opera finale" from a couple of weeks ago if you'd like to see specifically. Basically this woman seems to be too wishy-washy to take a stand, to actively pursue something she contends she'd like to have in her life -- in this case, a relationship with you. Why doesn't matter, because the only person who can change this is her. The fact that she's unable/unwilling to even discuss her reasons with you beyond glib, meaningless labels like "love is not enough" ought to tell you that she's not really interested in changing. She's content to stay in her little world of angst. There's no self-examination going on, no questioning of how she could get over her doubts. She has not actually asked you to help her, and that illustrates all the more that she's not really interested in changing. She's perfectly happy to have you stay stuck in orbit around her, she'll *allow* you to remain oriented toward her, and she'll even *encourage* you to remain so by admitting to you that she misses you and implying vaguely that maybe, someday ... In my book that's emotional exploitation. If someone knows what a great person you are and truly values you and your well-being, she will not subject you to her angst & melancholy when she knows that she's not going to do anything to move out of them. She's stuck in limbo, so you should be too? This is not how one shows another respect and consideration. If she's so helpless and lacking in self-awareness that she's not even aware of what she's doing to you, you won't be able to help her see the light. If she's so self-absorbed that the fact that she's taking advantage of your love for her doesn't bother her, you still won't be able to help her see the light. In fact, I very much doubt that you will be able to help her see the light under any circumstances. Say the two of you maintain a "friendship" -- would she be able to deal with you dating other women? If you got serious about someone would she be supportive and happy for your happiness, or would she try to sabotage your new relationship? For that matter, could you handle her dating other men? Getting serious with someone else? I don't think you really want to subject yourself to what she's offering. What would you get out of it? And ultimately, what will she get out of it -- besides your technical assistance -- if you allow her fears & doubts to define your relationship? Maybe the one meaningful gift you could give her would be to refuse to play her game, to refuse to validate her screwed-up approach to relationships & her emotions. If you loved her but she simply didn't feel the same would you try to convince her that she did? Believe it or not it amounts to the same thing. You shouldn't have to convince anyone to love you, or to "give in" to their love for you. When I told my ex that I'd had enough of his melodrama & angst, he grew defensive and bitter (although he projected his bitterness onto me). I've realized that he needed to distance himself from his feelings for me, but he only wanted to do so on his terms: which were him walking away from me (but not too far away), and me mournfully carrying the torch for him, waiting for him to come to his senses. Once I provided the distance on my terms -- dismissal and relative indifference -- he was angry. Which just shows all the more to me that he wasn't really concerned at all with how I felt, with how his behavior & words affected me. His expectations of me were completely unrealistic. He would not be happy to learn that I've got a new person in my life. He has demonstrated, unfortunately, that he's not fit to be my friend. It sounds to me like that's true of this woman. You've got to do what's right for your current well-being and future potential for happiness. She doesn't seem promising for those things.

Retard

At this point, it's a bit unclear, and other than liking her and wanting to date her, I'd like to at least get a better idea of what she's thinking. So by having a better idea of her disinterest, I can move on.

Krishna

How often do you go out? What places do you like to go to?

Stueken

Of course I don't know all the full details, but based on what you've written, my heart goes out to you. Either she's been immensely confused or else she's a game-player. For her to push you out of her life like that, especially after spending 2 weeks together on a vacation, I think that's pretty heartless. And the reasons she gave you for doing so (that "love isn't enough and that she didn't foresee a future with you") were strange. Talk about a slap in the face. Any idea what she really meant by that? If "love wasn't enough" then what else was it that she wanted or expected?

Procerus

I don't really know what to say, the online dating world is kind of new to me. I am currently a student, going for Computer Science. I am kind of shy at first but, once you get to know me that.

Eyas

This isn't future wifey material here.

Lardoon

Shes even shown me her work calendar to show how busy she is.

Sailfish

WHY try and cause drama using my ex as the catalyst? The past is the past, I've moved on and want nothing to do with my ex anymore. Doesn't make sense to me.

Bnr

Hey wup names Kershawn,18, am a bisexual guy mostly into men and if ur a girl u have 2 b really hot 2 get my attention. Still n high school and into guys around my age and love 2 smoke weed!;)<.

Billado

Yes I have, only nervous of it though because at the moment I'm feeling lonely and would like a partner, not a ONS.

Diretor

Edit: I'm sorry. I misread you've been on 3 dates. Yeah... I would just leave the call in her court til the weekend. If she bails, start moving on... sorry.

Aspection

That's great, except I don't have my phone # on Facebook. The # I have on my profile is an old number I don't use anymore.

Masacre

I am an honest heart that's looking for a stable relationship. I understand it is important to lay down lasting foundations for a lasting relationship.am a very outgoing person, who loves to dine out.

Eihctir

Plush knows what is good.

Imhof

Looking for life partne.

Insignia

I live in Graude. I've created a life which allows me to live and be in my pion; Art, Dance, and being in nature, each and every da.